Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Teenagers.....GRRRR

We just got a really good start on corn harvest and now the corn dryer is broke down. There is a guy here right now fixing it so hopefully we can get going soon.
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On another note.....beware all of you with young daughters! Right now my lovely teenage daughter thinks I am the meanest mom on earth and "all of her friends even think I am a b*tch". She wants to know why I can't be "cool" like her dad. For all of you raising teenage daughters or that have already raised teenage daughters.....HELP!

19 comments:

Tracy said...

Can't help you here...mine is only 18 months old.

Hang in there!!

amy said...

Bless your heart. my daughter is still in China waiting for me in China!!! Bless you

Jennifer said...

Oh, Sister, I feel your pain. I have been pronounced the "Meanest Mom In The Whole World" many, many times, and I think they just tell us that their friends think we are mean, too, is just to try and make us feel guilty.

Stick to your guns and don't fall for her little games. Teenagers are masters of manipulation.

P.S. I tagged you for a Meme. Visit my blog for the details :)

Dawn said...

My response to that is always, "Good, I'm doing my job right!". I know it is hard on the emotions, though. My college girl even told me she hates me in a moment when she was upset about a month ago. And she is a really great girl who has given us very little trouble (except with attitude obviously).

It's hard to hear your kids say things like that, but I really do think it is an indication we ARE doing things right.
I'd be willing to bet Dad loses his cool title the next time he tells her no.
I will say a prayer for you.

Amber said...

I can't help you either...except I'm up for hearing pointers on how to raise teenagers!

nickernoodle said...

Well, Brooklyn is only 7 but already when I tell her no she goes and asks her dad. Girls.

Joyce said...

I raised 2 girls who now live in Michigan. Just hold your ground. In 5 years or so she will come back and say thank you for standing firm.

Rose said...

A timely post about your daughter. I have a 15 year old. I've already raised two kids and they are doing fine out on their own. Both of them have thanked me for standing my ground and repeating myself over and over until it all sank in. I won't do it any differently with this one though it tires me to think about going through it all one more time. Just had to give her the "tell me ALL of the truth" speech just a couple nights ago. Big sigh. Hang in there, you're a great mom and as soon as they hit twenty they return to being normal people again.

~ Amy ~ said...

I know my kids aren't even close to being teenagers but when they seem to have an attitude about me I send Trevor to talk to them and I go chat with them when they're upset with Trevor. Sometimes I think they need to hear things from other people. I try to hear the kids out and understand where they are coming from and then try to explain why Trevor may have said what he said or did what he did.
I know you said that Chad isn't much of a talker, but maybe he can help put in some good words for you.

Hang in there. I'm sure not ALL of her friends feel that way!!!!

Michelle said...

Did you think your mom was cool twenty some years ago? Stand firm. She'll get over it. Blame it on the hormones. As for her friends, my motto is "kill them with kindness". I overheard a friend of my eldest tell him, "your mom is not as bad as you say she is."

*~*Cece*~* said...

Awww, Sweetie, don't let them get to you. Its them NOT you! Seriously. We all know they don't get their brain-card til their 30'ish so be patient.

Anonymous said...

We could have a club because i am also the meanest mama to a 15 year old daughter. She claims all her friends think I'm mean and my response to her is "good". I have to agree with the others you do have to stand firm. I have told her (many times) I am her mother not her friend. One day (when she is no longer a teenager) she will know how much you loved her.

Amanda said...

They're suppose to wait until teenage years to annoy you? Hmmm - my Alex must be a high achiever because I’ve been the meanest mom in the world for awhile now. You can sit next to me on the “mean mom bus”

Jamie said...

Oh, the fun teenager years...I am still hoping mine will stay 5 forever.

jennifer said...

Oh I remember being a teen and thinking my mom was lame. Sorry no help, except time. Mine is not a teen yet!!!

Penless Thoughts said...

The true understanding that comes between a daughter for her mother is after she has her own child!!! I know that's years off, but it will come.
Susan

kdwhorses said...

Amen, Susan. I thought my parent's were strict growing up. Things change for a daughter when she grows up and has her own child. I can say that is so true. Well, my step son is 15 1/2, but we have a really good relationship, but he is a boy and not all the drama. Daughter is just 5 1/2. I was hoping you were going to say how easy girls are. UGH! I do not know what to say, but stick to your guns. Deep down she really does love you. Too bad the "cool" parents are really doing there kids injustice. Keep it up! We love you here in bloggerville!!

Pam said...

UH Oh! I raised one boy so far and have another half way to teen age years. My sis on the other hand has 3 teenage daughters. I bet she can relate to you!

Coach J said...

Now, THIS is the part I don't look forward to AT ALL! Hope all this has passed by now, and she's realizing how great you really are.